Infidelity Investigations for Indiana (Carmel, Indianapolis, IN and surrounding)
Infidelity can cause Divorce
Poorman Investigations in Carmel, IN and servicing Indianapolis, IN and surrounding area provides infidelity investigations that cause divorce. Studies show that many divorces are caused by one or both spouses being unfaithful to the other spouse. What are some causes of Infidelity? What are some signs of infidelity? How can infidelity be prevented? These are just a few questions that we will try to answer.
Merriam-Webster’s:
Excerpts from article written by Anne Bercht “Top 10 Signs of Infidelity”
1. Do The Work It Takes to Know Yourself as A Sexual Person.
Read books, take a workshop, talk to a counselor. Study your sexuality as you would any other subject you were trying to master. Increase your own awareness about what you like and don’t like; what you fantasize about; how you like to be touched and where; what you would like to try.
2. Communicate to Your Partner Who You Are Sexually.
Don’t assume that they know! Have an honest conversation at a time when you both feel relaxed and close. If a tool would facilitate the conversation or if you need some structure around it, take a questionnaire together and compare answers.
3. Ask Questions and Listen to Who They Are as A Sexual Person.
Don’t assume that you know! Unless you have asked them and they feel safe in answering, you probably don’t know all of it. Keep in mind, it may be difficult for your partner to share their sexual desires and fantasies with you if they are not used to talking about sex or if they are fearful that their answers will hurt or offend you. Make sure that when you do ask, you are ready for whatever the answers may be. Do your best to be encouraging and supportive.
4. Keep an Open Mind and Heart. Be Willing to Try New Things Together.
Try not to judge! In the realm of sexuality, almost anything goes (I say “almost” because the one caveat is that “anything” must be consensual). People’s sexual desires and expressions are hugely varied, and you should avoid making assumptions about what they mean as it is unique to each individual. Many people fantasize about things they are actually not interested in trying in real life or are only willing to try within the safety of their relationship.
5. Instead of Distracting Yourself and Avoiding the Problem, try to Remain Present and Engaged.
Affairs are distractions, and people distract themselves when they are bored or unhappy. An affair is a “quick fix” with a long-term consequence, even if not discovered. Do due diligence in your personal work. You owe it to yourself and to your partner.
6. Be Honest: Honest with Yourself and Honest with Your Partner.”
(Excerpts from My Cheating Heart: What Causes Infidelity, by Alyssa Siegel (Sept. 7th, 2013 article)
Poorman Investigations in Carmel, IN and servicing Indianapolis, IN and surrounding area provides infidelity investigations that cause divorce. Studies show that many divorces are caused by one or both spouses being unfaithful to the other spouse. What are some causes of Infidelity? What are some signs of infidelity? How can infidelity be prevented? These are just a few questions that we will try to answer.
Merriam-Webster’s:
- Definition of infidelity
- 1. lack of belief in a religion,
- 2. a: unfaithfulness to a moral obligation, disloyalty,
- b: the act or fact of having a romantic or sexual relationship with someone other than one's husband, wife, or partner.
- What are some causes of Infidelity?
- 1. Fighting fair with your partner. (Don’t put your partner down or insult your partner during a discussion or argument)
- 2. Lack of caring for your health and or physical appearance.
- 3. Becoming presumptive of your partner.
- 4. Lack of care or intimacy with your partner.
- What are some of the signs of infidelity?
- 1. Partner/Spouse Becomes Emotionally Distant
- 2. Unfaithful spouse becomes angry, critical and even at times cruel.
- 3. Complains of issues of control voiced by those who are cheating.
- 4. The cheating spouse reports to have increased working hours, after work meetings, business trips and a need to work out of town for prolonged periods of time.
- 5. Frequent illness of the one who is faithful
- 6. The cheating spouse will pay extra close attention to their appearance.
- 7. The cheating spouse sometimes showing more energy and zeal for life.
- 8. The cheating spouse, will Become inappropriately defensive when asked questions.
- 9. The cheating spouse, will become extra flirtatious with the opposite sex.
- 10. The cheating spouse may display and obsessive need for ‘Private ness’
- 11. The faithful spouse noticing something different in your sex life.
- 12. The cheating spouse wearing their wedding ring.
- 13. The cheating spouse unaccounted for time and being caught lying
Excerpts from article written by Anne Bercht “Top 10 Signs of Infidelity”
- *How can infidelity be prevented?
1. Do The Work It Takes to Know Yourself as A Sexual Person.
Read books, take a workshop, talk to a counselor. Study your sexuality as you would any other subject you were trying to master. Increase your own awareness about what you like and don’t like; what you fantasize about; how you like to be touched and where; what you would like to try.
2. Communicate to Your Partner Who You Are Sexually.
Don’t assume that they know! Have an honest conversation at a time when you both feel relaxed and close. If a tool would facilitate the conversation or if you need some structure around it, take a questionnaire together and compare answers.
3. Ask Questions and Listen to Who They Are as A Sexual Person.
Don’t assume that you know! Unless you have asked them and they feel safe in answering, you probably don’t know all of it. Keep in mind, it may be difficult for your partner to share their sexual desires and fantasies with you if they are not used to talking about sex or if they are fearful that their answers will hurt or offend you. Make sure that when you do ask, you are ready for whatever the answers may be. Do your best to be encouraging and supportive.
4. Keep an Open Mind and Heart. Be Willing to Try New Things Together.
Try not to judge! In the realm of sexuality, almost anything goes (I say “almost” because the one caveat is that “anything” must be consensual). People’s sexual desires and expressions are hugely varied, and you should avoid making assumptions about what they mean as it is unique to each individual. Many people fantasize about things they are actually not interested in trying in real life or are only willing to try within the safety of their relationship.
5. Instead of Distracting Yourself and Avoiding the Problem, try to Remain Present and Engaged.
Affairs are distractions, and people distract themselves when they are bored or unhappy. An affair is a “quick fix” with a long-term consequence, even if not discovered. Do due diligence in your personal work. You owe it to yourself and to your partner.
6. Be Honest: Honest with Yourself and Honest with Your Partner.”
(Excerpts from My Cheating Heart: What Causes Infidelity, by Alyssa Siegel (Sept. 7th, 2013 article)
